Has anybody been successful in encouraging their partner to quit smoking?I'm 13 weeks along and I quit as soon as I found out I was pregnant. It wasn't a big deal for me as I only smoked when I was drinking and since I'm not doing that... My partner is a heavier smoker and keeps saying that he'll quit. "after we hear the heartbeat", "After the ultrasound"...etc. Those have both passed and he's still smoking. It's starting to really annoy me. I can't stand the way he smells and how he has to light up as soon as we leave somewhere or as soon as we get out of the car. I don't want to nag. Does anybody have any advice for me to help him without becoming a major b****? He knows he needs to quit and I believe that he wants to. I've already suggested all the possible smoking cessation aids out there.
Momma Bendtsen
Sadly to say it seems he doesnt 'really' want to quit, anyone who wants to would take all the steps to try to quit, or at least make some attempts.
Telling you, "I'll quit after, X, Y and Z" is just a delay tactic.
My husband did same thing and I'm almost 38 weeks, he's still smoking and hasnt even attempted to quit.
He knows its not good for him, but I cannot nag him, he will make a go at it when he's ready.
However I did make 'rules' if you will. I told him its his decision to smoke or not, I will not nag him not to, but he has to wash his hands and brush his teeth after, which is only fair to me (it makes me super nauseated) and to his unborn baby, and the same rule applies once the baby is born.
He agreed but in exchange I do not nag him.
Kristyn C
mine never changed. But he is trying lol
waitingforjuly
Go out & buy him a stop smoking aid that way when he gets home you can tell him look at what i got you i know its gonna be hard for you to quit so i wanted to help make it as easy as possible, then he has no excuse the help is right thier & you come across looking out for him so he cant get mad that your nagging him
how nice of you to be concerned with his comfort level while quiting :)
if he doesnt try it when its right there for him then he really doesnt want to quit & hes just stalling with no real intentions
Mary
I'm 36 weeks pregnant and my fiance has been saying the same thing since I was 5 weeks. Now it's "when the baby gets here, I'm going to quit."
I don't know what to tell you, other than good luck. Let me know if you have any luck getting him to stop!
TotalRecipeHound
Don't nag. You knew he was a smoker before you were pregnant. He is an adult. When he is ready he will quit.
I quit smoking back in 1991. Last year, I refused to move in with my bf, because I just didn't want to deal with the smoke. Both he and his son quit almost 6 months ago. They are both still struggling, but doing pretty good. Stats indicate that the average smoker tries to quit 7-9 times before they are successful. Took me 9 tries, so I understand the issue well.
The only advice I have for you is to ask him what you can do to help and back off the nagging! He knows there are options out there and until he is ready, pointing them out is just going to be annoying. If you were able to quit cold turkey, good for you! But, the fact is many smokers just start again shortly afterwards, so clearly not the best way for everybody.
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