Teen ashamed of himself due to smoking relapse?Hey guys. My name is Davey and I'm a 19 year old guy. I picked up the bad habit of smoking at 12 years old, and smoked until I turned 19 (a little over 7 years) on January 21, 2010 I smoked a cigarette, put it out and promised that this last cigarette was the last one I'd ever smoke. I never slipped up once. Today would be around 11 months (give or take) that I'd quit. This morning after waking up I bummed a cigarette for no reason and smoked it. Soon after that, I'd went out and bought a pack which I've smoked half of. Just to say now, there was NOT peer pressure. This is something I've pondered doing for awhile. If you're a smoker who's quit before, you'll know what I mean by when you haven't smoked in months (even years) that such time goes by you forget what a cigarette even tastes like, even though you KNOW it's disgusting. I've wondered for awhile what this "forbidden fruit" still tastes like, and I jumped in. I didn't smoke it because it was a craving, I just smoked that first one because I wanted to, and I'm still not sure why. My whole family had been so proud of me because of my quit, my mom especially since she quit also and didn't want me following down the same road. I feel like I let my family down BIG TIME. I just got out of the shower a few minutes ago and sat there and tears filled my eyes knowing I made a mistake, I feel as if I'm a waste because I let these people down (even though I most likely won't ever speak of it to them). I don't know why I would flush 11 months of quit time down the drain for a day of cigarettes, it literally upsets me just typing this. I had become so anti-smoker I even stopped hanging around my smoker friends (which is almost all) and I hated it. I just don't know what to do about this. I've read that you should never let one slip up result in a failed quit, but I was so excited about achieving my first year smoke free I am ashamed of myself, ashamed. Where do I go from here? Should I be ashamed of myself? Thanks guys..
Kennedy Cole
what u need to do is tell ur mom she can help you big time
Pete
First off, congratulations on quitting. That's a feat in itself. Sure, it sucks to feel like you've taken a step back after all that time you put in to quitting. But...you made a mistake. That's OK. Forgive yourself. There is no need to be ashamed. It only shows that you're a human. You went a year without smoking, and you got curious about what it was like before. That's a normal human thing. You had one day of cigarettes. Be proud for what you accomplished.
Where should you go from here? Wherever you were going before you bought that last pack of cigarettes. You were on a path, you veered off it for a second, and now you get back on.
tappingxout
Rome wasn't built in a day! You did a good job, and you're still doing a good job. That slip-up was a little bump in the road, but it was not a dead end. Just keep going, and keep convincing yourself to move forward. Start each day over, fresh, with the notion to quit -- even if you smoked ten packs the day before. Good luck!
gugenheim84
You have some deeper issues that need to be addressed. Smoking, in your case, is a symptom of cause/s. Examine why you picked up your first cigarette, where were you, what was your mood? Did you plan ahead to smoke your first cigarette? And, after the initial discomfort of that first cigarette why did you continue practicing? You must have also conquered a few other challenges by starting the habit so soon. A 12-13 year old boy usually doesn't smoke where he can be observed, so you must have conscientiously chose a private time and/or place. Then there is your active behavior over all those years before you turned of legal age, where you had to have dishonestly again, and again obtained your "supply".
I'm saying this in order to encourage you to _honestly_ self-examine the reasons why you started to smoke, continued to smoke and why you decided to stop, and don't fool yourself by blaming peer pressure or simply addiction because as your case pattern shows; you summoned and expelled a great degree of will power to successfully continue a habit which is objectionable to most people, unlawful for minors and in defiance to the abundant health risk information available everywhere!
Now here's the biggie; did it ever occur to you that you might like tobacco (and you're trying to quite for someone else?) some do you know, and it hasn't been around 2000 years for nothing. Tobacco is graded in quality like coffee or wine. The blends seem countless but most agree the best are with American and Turkish leaves. The inside of a Tobacco Shop smells sweet and woodsy with an undertone similar to earth after a rain. There you will encounter all the proof you need for why people enjoy smoking. Tobacco is not bad for you when taken in moderation, the danger is in using it obsessively to cover insecurities, depression, anxiety or any compulsive behavior and claiming those troubles are from addiction. But believe me, if you stop smoking those troubles will still be with you.
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